Marriage Talk: Happy Marriages
How is your marriage so happy? That's the unexpected question I seem to get a lot on my private direct messages through social media. People see a video, an instagram, instastory, (sorry I don't do snapchat...) and almost every time I'll receive a message from women either asking a question about marriage or offering up an inspired compliment. I love to show off my love for my husband and I suppose in return it shows the public how happy we are. We are happy, but we didn't get to this place of happieness without a few spats.
The truth is that every marriage is a partnership that required (yes, requires) respect. Mutual respect is not optional in order to have a working marriage. The topic of what roles you each play is an entirely different conversation - regardless if you're working or staying home - each spouse must walk through the door at the end of the day with respect for the other. For example, when my husband, Cameron, walks through the door at the end of the day from his office I love to greet him at the door with an unlocked and open doorway as if to say, "come on in, you've made it home to me!" Do I have to do that? No. Do I do it every day? No. I choose to make an effort to do that because choosing that versus the alternative of him being welcomed to a locked up fortress it certainly seems more inviting, wouldn't you say? When I can welcome him with trumpets (just kidding, I can't play the trumpet) it automatically brings about the conversations of "How was your day?" "It's great to see you!" then likewise, Cameron will return by flashing me his smile and saying something to the effect of "it's so great to be home" or "I missed you!".... Listen, the point is (if you're not getting it already) is simply this - the Bible states that in order to have a friend you must be a friend. This is true in marriage. You must be friendly to one another. Simply put yourself in the other partners shoes and wonder what would be considered effort towards positivity today? Would welcoming him/her at the door help put a positive spin on the evening? Of course it will, so try it. Will welcoming him/her at the door change your entire marriage? Maybe. It won't fix an affair, grief, or disappointment but it just might recalibrate the norm and set you both up for saying and doing things that are out of the ordinary. Cameron and I haven't always had a "perfect" marriage, but I wouldn't have it any other way because we are proof that an ok marriage can grow greater than ever before. We are proof that there's hope for your future. Try something different today, something to spin the day towards positive change... it just may be the new tradition that brings happiness to your days for years to come.
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